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Historic Houdini Estate Wedding in Los Angeles

What on Earth could be more glamorous than a wedding at the fabulous Harry Houdini estate in Los Angeles? Steeped in history, this magical estate served as a backdrop to Meg and Brett's vintage-inspired wedding. The cascading waterfall, creek and lush garden was an extraordinary setting to exchange nuptials.


Built in the Edwardian tradition in the early 1900s, the Houdini Estate still has caves, hidden tunnels, terraced gardens, and a deep-water tank where Harry Houdini reportedly practiced his underwater escapes. The secluded property was the perfect retreat for America’s foremost Magician. Houdini used the estate’s pool to practice his amazing feats of escape and illusion before his death in 1926.


For their Save the Date invitations, Meg and Brett started with my Art Deco "Swinging on the Moon" design. They utilized the same theme for their wedding invitations and event stationery. The large lavender welcome poster greeted guests and the corresponding programs alerted them to the evening's events.


Paper Moon Shoppe built a phenomenal Paper Moon photo backdrop for guests to really go "Swinging on the Moon". You will honestly never encounter such a unique way to memorialize your event than with a portable old-fashioned paper moon photo studio. Famed Photographer, Margot Landen shot the glamorous affair. Check out a few of her stunning photos!


Photography: www.margotlandenweddings.com @margotlanden

Planning: www.heartthrobweddings.com @heartthrobweddings

Florals: www.tropicofflowers.com @tropicoflowers


Meg + Brett at the historic Harry Houdini Estate in Los Angeles




Anatomy of a Reply Card

Updated: Jan 24

The who, what, when, where and why of wedding invitation response cards. I get more questions regarding reply cards than any other. Reply cards are also known as RSVP cards. To begin with, RSVP stands for répondez s’il vous plaît. In French, “please respond”. You must have some way to let your guests tell you that they are, or are not attending your wedding.

We never put response requests ON our formal invitations. No matter how small your budget, it is never done. Printing this on the formal invitation gives one the impression of extreme thriftiness on the part of the sender and is frankly, just too casual. Email, phone numbers and websites on the formal invitation look cluttered. You only get married once, we hope, so let’s at least have some decorum and put these details on another card.


The reply card will have the following:


Reply by date:

Traditionally, invitations go out two months prior to your wedding. Your reply by date should be three-four weeks before your wedding.


Formal: The favor of a reply is requested by the tenth of June

Informal: Kindly reply by June 10th

M________________________

What is this M in front of the name line? I get this question all the time and it saddens me that this tradition is going by the wayside. Lately, I have replaced M with guest(s) as couples do not care to embrace this tradition today. M in front of the line is for Mr., Mrs., Ms., or Miss. Historically, this is traditional proper protocol.


Reply envelopes:

You must include them with your response card and either handwrite or have your Stationer print your return address on the front. Self-mailable postcards are informal but still do the trick if you forgo a proper response envelope.


Stamps:

You must place a stamp on the self-mailable reply card or on the reply card envelope. It is bad form to ask your guests to pay for the response to your wedding.


Meal Choices:

Many couples like to include meal choices on their reply card so that their caterer can better prepare for the wedding day. This is entirely up to you. A major reason couples send out their invitations late is that they wait and wait for the caterer to sort out the meal choices. Caterers do not care about invitation deadlines and the stress this causes the Stationer (me) and the couples (you) is tantamount. If you must put meal choices on your response cards, then go with the bare minimum: meat, fish, vegetarian.

Mailable response card vs an online reply, which is best for you? It depends. If you are having a very formal black tie wedding, something in a grand home, country club or ballroom, you would want a proper mail-in reply card. Below are the pro’s and cons of each side of the argument:


Online Reply Card Pros

• You will receive responses sooner

• Since you do not need an envelope, you will save environmentally and in your wallet

• Easier for some guests


Online Reply Card Cons

• Out of site, out of mind; spend more time tracking down responses from guests who simply forgot

• Too casual for formal weddings

• Older guests may have a hard time navigating the web

• How do you indicate how many are invited with just a link? You will have to have numerous conversations or a way to indicate online what the guest limit is. You may not want everyone to bring a "plus one".

• You must have a shortened url. It is difficult for older guests or guests on mobile devices to type something like this in order to reply: theknot.com/us/courtney-hanley-&-stephen-shaunessey-get-married-2020


QR Codes

• Insanely ugly and detract from the invitation design

• Are difficult for many guests, particularly the elderly

• If I did not stress this enough above, they are really unattractive



Mail-in Reply Cards Pros

• A physical card that requires action is more reliable for getting responses

• It’s classier

• Every day you receive a response in the mail is like getting a letter from a friend. When do you ever receive letters these days? Many guests take the time to write a little handwritten note on your reply cards. You can even add a few lines on your card for this. I kept all of mine and tied them with a pretty ribbon.


Mail-in Reply Cards Cons

The added cost of the stamp and envelopes

Not as environmentally friendly


With the advent of technology, we seem to lose little pieces of traditions every day. It would be a shame for weddings to go fully digital. When you look back on your 50th wedding anniversary, what will you have besides your love and photos? Paper will be there. Texts, wedding websites and email confirmations will all be long gone after your wedding day. Let’s ditch the traditions that are not so important to us. Tossing the garter can go, bridesmaids don’t always have to wear the same dress and we really do not have to throw rice. As a self-proclaimed paper and etiquette collector, I admit the online reply is becoming more and more popular. Let’s just make sure we keep it OFF of the invitation and ON a separate card, no matter what you decide to do.


A traditional reply card




Bridal Shower Paper Goods

Updated: Mar 13, 2020

Bridal showers are an excellent way to show your creativity and honor your great friend! Historically speaking, the Maid of Honor, bridal party or friends host the bridal shower and should be thrown two months to two weeks ahead of the wedding date. Below are a few ideas of the paper goods you might want to consider to make your shower as lovely as possible! And if you know me by now, the more colorful and vintage, the better!



One needs an invitation, of course, and paper invitations are a must. A Bride cannot put a digital invitation into her scrapbook. Make her (or his) day last forever with a paper invitation. Wording this invitation is quite easy. Start with the basics:

You are invited to a bridal shower in honor of

Taylor Kelley Saturday, October 19, 2019 Noon Marmalade Restaurant

Please reply to Margo at 212-444-5690

Michelle is registered at Target and Macy's




Unlike the main wedding invitation, you can print registry information on this card..



Place Cards:

Thank you note cards make a great bridal shower gift for the Bride. She can hand-write her courteous words If you are having a tea party or whimsical little garden party, you might want to consider place cards to give the guests a little bit of "fancy." Make each one different with vintage words of advice or quotes.



Menus:

It's always a good idea to let your guests know the dining choices they are going to experience. If you are hosting a tea party, then having a list that describes the variety of teas offered is beneficial.



Party Favor Tags:

Party favors are not a requirement, but it is nice to offer a treat or small token to your guests to show your gratitude for their gifts and attendance. Hang tags, stickers or cards all do the trick! Silk ribbon or baker's twine makes it special.


Recipe Cards:

A thoughtful keepsake for any Bride is to receive recipes from her family and friends. A vintage-inspired design is an attractive way to do this and better than blank index cards



Advice Cards:

Another excellent way to impart wisdom to the Bride-to-Be is to print advice cards. They should be attractive, easy to write on and can be placed into a keepsake album or decorative box.



Thank You Cards:

Thank you note cards make a great bridal shower gift for the Bride. She can hand-write her courteous words of gratitude to all of her guests for their generosity. Don't forget pretty stamps or even vintage, unused stamps to complete the look. A fancy pen is also a lovely added gift.


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All paper goods designed by Gilded Swan Paperie

Photo 5 photo by: @daybreakanddusk & Planniny by @anythingbutgrayevents



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