Wedding Invitation Etiquette and Wedding Advice

REGISTRY INFORMATION

Registry information never goes on a proper wedding invitation. It is either spread by word of mouth by friends and family, or on your couple's website. These are the only two appropriate ways to communicate your registry. 

 

DOES MY SAVE THE DATE HAVE TO MATCH MY INVITATION?

Absolutely not. Save the Dates can be more fun and less formal. Besides, not every couple

has a defined mood board and "look" set for their big day this early in their planning. 

 

WEBSITE URL

Printing your website on the Save the Date is fine.  It does not go on your actual wedding invitation. Put your website link on an additional details card included with the invitation.

 

CAN I PRINT INFORMATION ON THE BACK OF MY INVITATION?

No. It is not intuitive to put RSVP, reception or websites on the back of an invitation no matter how informal your wedding is going to be. You will spend hours tracking down guests to obtain their RSVP. Putting this type of information on the back implies extreme thriftiness on the part

of the sender. 

 

COMMON MISTAKES

~ Honor vs Honour? Only the Brits, Australians and Canadians use "Honour". 

~ The Bride's name ALWAYS come first. End of story.

~ Middle initials are never used on an invitation. Use the full middle name, or omit altogether

~ The phrase "half after" is more formal and traditionally preferred over "half past".

~ No zip codes on the formal invitation. They are unattractive and unnecessary.

 

WHO IS INVITED?

Traditionally, only the guests whose names appear on the envelope are invited. To bring guests not listed on the envelope is considered rude. Another option is to print “We have reserved ___ seats in your honor” on your reply cards. You can communicate just how many guests are invited here.

 

REPLY CARDS

Make sure your reply card envelopes are pre-addressed and pre-stamped. It is bad form to expect guests to pay for a stamp to reply to your wedding.

 

B LIST

This is a very touchy subject. Having someone realize that they are on the B List is very unfortunate. If you need to do this, then you simply must send out your A-List invitations at least twelve weeks in advance. You will also need to purchase two separate reply cards with each reply date. Typical reply dates are 3-4 weeks from the date of the wedding.  Guests will know they are on the B List if their reply date is two weeks or under. 

 

CHILDREN OR NO CHILDREN?

There is no tactful way to say “we don’t want your children.” As much as I total understand this, seeing those words, no matter how lovingly written, can hurt parents. Word of mouth is the only real acceptable way to communicate this. Give this illustrious duty to your bridesmaids or family

members to handle for you.

 

WHAT IS HAND-CANCELING AND SHOULD I DO IT?

This adds about .21 to the cost of each envelope, but it ensures that the stamping machine

at the post office does not smudge or bend your gorgeous wedding invitations. Make sure you

take a full invitation suite to your Postmaster to make sure you purchase the right amount of

postage. Then ask about hand-canceling.

 

WHEN IN DOUBT?

First, I ask "What would Grace Kelly do?" If she would not do it, then neither would I. Second, I always confer with Emily Post and Martha Stewart when it comes to wedding etiquette. 

 

 

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